For some reason what ever man I have “been” with has affectionately been called “The Man.” I have yet to discuss much of my dating life on my blog because as a single mom (and obese woman) “dating” is a complicated task. A few months back I met Vincent he was a sweet and we enjoyed texting but things came up with him and he fell off my grid. But in the end of February he texted me again. We immediately hit it off and started talking and texting consistently. We met on a Big Beautiful Women website all those months ago and I have been certainly surprised that I found someone like Vincent on a dating website. He is kind-hearted, open, talkative, complimentary and he treats me with respect, something that has seriously been lacking in my past relationships. Most of the men in my past have used me for one purpose or another. The fairy tale for me has been a big fat LIE!! Frankly, I am grateful that I lost that notion because it allowed me to redefine what I really wanted. I want someone who listens to me and is just as attracted to my brain, heart, spirit and personality as he is to my other finer assets ;D.
As of late as far as dating was concerned, I have found friendships and mutual respect but never a connection that I felt was worth the work it takes to make the sacrifices that it takes to be a couple and to truly find out if we are right for each other. I appreciate the lessons I have learned and the I won’t bad mouth the men who have come and gone or come and stayed on as friends…but I will say that none of the ones who I saw potential with ever treated me like I was a priority or that I was someone who they respected enough to go the extra mile and try to be a real part of my life. And this lovely man happened back into my life and it is all different certainly not a fairy tale (as we discussed I don’t believe in that) but he brings a smile to my heart and face everyday, he encourages me, spoils me and makes me feel seen and heard. Our friendship is growing and everyday we learn more about each other. I appreciate that he sees me for me and that he doesn’t judge or make me feel bad about my shortcomings. I appreciate that he says wonderful, beautiful things to me like…”love your intelligence, goodness, personality, kindness, cuteness, etc.” I am a lucky girl to have met this man. I believe that people come into our lives for a reason to teach us something or to touch us in many different ways and so far he has touched my heart uniquely.
Though I have no idea what will happen with him and I, I do know that I am happily enjoying every moment of getting to know him. Each time I hear his voice or read one of his text messages I am filled with a warm glow. I am grateful that God has brought Vincent into my crazy life and that he is such a wonderful enhancement. For Easter his generous nature brought Peanut and I some sweet, thoughtful gifts and every time I see them I am reminded of him. We have yet to meet in person but I can’t wait until I can see him and get to know him more when we are face to face. He has never see the mountain’s, never seen animals in the wild, and never seen the gorgeous sunsets that only the Idaho skies can provide. ❤ I am so excited to share in some firsts with Vincent. 😀