Day 19-Perspective


Isn’t much of life about “perspective”? I looked up what perspective means and defines it like this…”the state of one’s ideas, the facts known to one, etc., in having a meaningful interrelationship.” A meaningful interrelationship…to me that implies you must have a connection with a subject or relationship to a person to have a meaningful perspective. Ok so with that being said I would like to detail a specific struggle I have with blanket prejudice and judgement. A terrible and ill-advised joke came across my Facebook and though I wholeheartedly disagree with the premise behind it I am going to share it in an effort for perspective as to what sparked my ruminating on the subjects I am detailing today…”Obama voters are like Christmas lights….. half of them don’t work & the other half aren’t very bright.”  This horrible and off-color joke was posted by a (self-proclaimed) Christian. And it sparked some heated debate and I am sure some hurt feelings. And for me it spurred me to think and process why someone would put something so obviously inflammatory on such a public media. The conclusion that I have come to is that they seriously lack perspective. It doesn’t matter who I voted for I am offended by this because it is an assumption about a certain perceived class of people…I am a single mom of a 5-year-old fatherless daugther…I lost my job of 2 1/2 years due to closure because of lack of money to keep it running. I am here to tell you I was at first to be embarrassed to apply for assistance, I do not want to rely on food stamp, Medicaid and housing. But here is a little perspective…my pride has nothing to do with what I have to do to take care of my child who didn’t ask to be born into this situation. I will beg, borrow, and steal to make sure that she doesn’t have to sleep in our car or go days without eating because her Mommy can’t find a job. I will use my food stamps without embarrassment at the grocery store and I will be eternally grateful for the provision of a roof over our heads because God provided these things for us. I cried from joy when I found out that after 4 years on the waiting list I was accepted for housing assistance. This is a time in my life where I need the help and I am eternally grateful I live in a country that provides me a way to take care of my Peanut girl. I am extremely grateful for the agency that helps us meet our housing needs. After all the hoops I had to jump through all the waiting and stress of not knowing how I would take care of my child if some help didn’t come through, upon receiving the acceptance letter relief came not shame. I am not an uneducated, white trash, drug addict that is sitting around waiting for a hand out. I am a woman, a Mother in need of help. I am trying to educate myself so that this is a temporary station in life, and I am trying to get the best education for my daughter so that she has more opportunities in life then she knows what to do with. There is an assumption that all people who need or accept assistance like food stamps and Medicaid are second class, lazy citizens. Tell me this…if you lost your job, or you had an injury that took you out of commission for a long period of time and you had no way to make ends meet what would you do to take care of your most precious gift…your child or children…I suspect that you too would most likely beg, borrow, and steal or give your right arm and leg if you thought it meant that they didn’t have to suffer even one night. Just because people have to ask for assistance doesn’t mean that they are inherently lazy, stupid or unwilling to work for what they have. Living in today’s world is hard enough why not build up one another up instead of tear each other down with intolerance and judgement. The fact that this particular post came from a Christian (as I mentioned before) is extremely disheartening because the God I know doesn’t deal in hatred and prejudice. His disciples were compromised of  men that were considered the lowest of the low tax collectors, fisherman, and murders. They now sit at the right hand of the Lord. Christians are in constant attack and scrutiny in the media, the classroom, and world. So…why add fuel to the fire? Why give non-believers a reason to hate Christians even more?  Hypocrisy has nothing to do with Jesus I do not see how spewing venom and  extreme opinions ever won someone over to your side of a matter.  Though I highlighted a specific incident that triggered me, this post is in general and I’m not trying to call anyone out or  hurt someones feelings. I think in general when people lack perspective they tend to be more judgemental and say things about subjects that they are not fully informed about and a lot of times it just comes off not sounding very intelligent (despite being intelligent people). I know that I in the past have done the exact same thing. Being that I have strong and passionate opinions I will most likely do it again. But, what I hope is that by talking about things openly, recognizing my own faults and failures, that I can improve and do better tomorrow then I did today.



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Hello World my name is Jenness I have been blogging for a couple of years I have used my Embracing blog to help me carry my burdens and to discuss issues that are sometimes very heavy...I am a passionate and very opinionated person I appreciate the outlet that blogging affords me...I am a single mom and have many struggles that I battle in my life but I feel a call on my life to share my blessings and struggles. I pray that the words that I write make there way to people who can be touched by them and that someway, somehow God can use them to have a positive impact. I love writing and though I am not great at it I started the Journal Of The Everyday in an effort to hone my skills and learn new things about myself through writing...I have a pie in the sky idea of someday writing a book...A lofty goal I thank you everyone who joins me on my journey by reading my blogs...I welcome comments and feedback. Here is to embracing the possibilities of everyday life. :)

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  1. Pingback: Day 19-Perspective « Embracing Possibilities

  2. I would neither beg, borrow (as this is a presumption that you will in some way compensate for the advance) nor steal to feed my children. I would work any job no matter how menial to put food on the table, even if it meant that I didn’t eat. That WAS my reality and you NEVER went hungry. I ate one meal per day (the dinner I cooked every night–a fast food meal was never partaken) and I worked my fanny off. But I know if I had told my mother I or my children were hungry she would have fed us. If I had had no other options I would stand in a food line and take the kindness of strangers, (accept offers of kindness not begging). All these things I would do before I would beg, borrow or steal–these are not virtues daughter, despite your perspective. I love you.

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